We’ve started a series on tea parties and the details of how to host a tea party. However, before we get any farther into the specifics of a tea party, we really do need to ask ourselves a question.
Why do we gather together and share a steaming cup of tea?
Throwing a tea party or sharing a simple cup of tea is a way to spend time with someone. It’s a way to give them your entire attention, to focus on what they have to say, what they have going on in their life, to listen. The simple act of sitting across from someone and listening or sharing with them can be huge.
I have spilled tears, laughed to the point of spilling my tea, shared deep conversations, and sometimes just sat quietly with someone I love and a pot of tea close by. Not only is throwing a tea party fun and a good way to grow community, it’s also all about hospitality. Opening your home and giving people a place to rest can be incredibly healing.
When I say “tea party”, please don’t think that every time I have someone over for tea I also have a full spread of sweets, tea sandwiches, and other goodies. Most often having someone over for a tea party means a good pot of tea and a simple cookie if I’m really on top of things. Don’t get so wrapped up in needing to be the perfect hostess that you loose sight of the joy that can come from simply spending time with someone.
A cup of tea is a good reminder to slow down, to take time to share your life with someone on a deeper level than a status update or a photo caption. In a world filled with quick snapshots of the lives around us, tea time can help fill the gaps that creep into relationships driven by a fast-paced culture.
Making time to purposefully sit down, slow down, and do life together can be a deeply impactful way to develop relationships. By offering someone a cup of tea you are expressing interest and care about their lives.You have made time for that person. You are giving of your heart, home, and time. It’s about Hospitality.
So that’s why. That’s the reason why that I have tea with someone. Why do you share tea with someone? What is the driving force for you behind inviting someone into your home for a cup of tea?